Practicing Self-compassion


We all face challenges and demands of living in today's society. The pressures of being successful, accomplishing milestones on the “right” timeline, being exceptional at all things, and keeping up with the fast pace of life. We hear the message that we must be perfect but we are not perfect. We need many things like care, guidance, love, and space to grow. Self compassion is one of many things that influence overall quality of life. Being your biggest critic was so 20th century! Self-compassion is the only (healthy) path forward and the body can do incredible things because of it.

What Is It?

Self compassion is being forgiving, kind, and understanding to yourself in any moment, but especially when you make a mistake, have failed at an attempt to be great, or even when you have difficulty grasping the idea of any given concept new to your mind. People often confuse self-compassion with selfishness. On the contrary, it is one of many ways to be able to show up better in your relationships, including the one with yourself.

Why Is it Important?

We all hear that relationships matter, but we rarely make the connection that this includes your relationship with yourself. Having a shitty relationship with yourself can contribute to trauma, stress, and relational challenges. Highs and lows are inevitable during the season of life and self-compassion can help you ride the waves with increased stability. 

Signs You Need Self-Compassion?

♦Low Confidence

♦Trouble asking for help

♦Negative self-talk

♦Fear of failure

♦Difficulty accepting compliments

♦Negative social companions

♦Unhealthy relationships

Ways to Practice Self-Compassion

♦Acknowledging what is happening in your body

♦Thanking your body for it's ability (even if you wish it was different)

♦Comforting your body (rest, exercise, nutrition that fuels you)

♦Neutral or positive self-talk

♦Practicing naming your needs + wants to others

♦Setting and maintain boundaries

♦Labeling and expressing emotions (especially the uncomfortable ones)

Signs Self-Compassion is Paying Off

♦Increased humility

♦Ability to celebrate wins and respect losses

♦Your relationship to your body is kinder

♦Your relationships are more reciprocal

♦Ability to acknowledge both positive + negative feelings

♦Accepting affirmations or compliments from others

♦You can allow yourself to ask for help and actually receive support

Compassion involves giving and receiving. Everyone is deserving of it - including YOU. Being compassionate is being loving. Increase your self love by practicing more self-compassion. Life is already hard. Why make it harder? So the next time you make a mistake, stumble or full on fail at something try offering grace and compassion to that glorious body of yours!